Friday, May 22, 2020

Let's Talk About Sex!






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It seems like my last post about abstinence and celibacy in a relationship resonated with a lot of singles. In this episode, I want to discuss popular misconceptions singles/unmarried people have about the role sex plays in a relationship.

My pen is black, My ink is pale, My love 4 U..had always faile !!

Let's talk about it!



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Friday, May 15, 2020

Dear Inthe... How Do I Give Up Sex?.



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Hi, Inthemidstofher

I want to say thanks for the advice a while back when I messed up with my boyfriend, am happy to say my boyfriend forgave me and we are working things out right now......I owe that to u....thanks a whole lot. Inthemidstofher I have another issue I will like to hear your opinion about..

So right now am trying to stop having sex, I want to have a better relationship with God. How do I tell my boyfriend we have to stop, our relationship is long distance there's always that urge when we see each other after a long time. How are we supposed to be intimate without sex, am worried we might not have a relationship or it will just be formal and boring without sex

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I really dont know what to do, mere seeing my boyfriend arouses me. When he comes over or I go over does it mean we can't sleep in the same room, does it mean we can't kiss. How is the relationship going to work, we are a long way from marriage can we survive it. Looking forward to your reply
Can I just say I love you.....Yes alot of Homo
What you are doing is amazing
May God continue to bless you
Lover Girl


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Friday, May 08, 2020

Defining Your Relationship.



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Have you ever wondered if you're in an actual relationship or a "situationship"? Have you ever wondered if the guy your dating sees the same future your planning for? Do you know if you are a fling, friend or future wife?

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In this episode, I discuss defining your relationship by having what I call the  "Who Are You and What Are We Doing" conversation. This is a discussion that will help both parties define the relationship and avoid gray areas that cause heartache. PS: I mentioned the "Defining the Relationship Test" posted by boundless.org, but unfortunately they have since taken the test down. No worries, you can find other resources for having this conversation in my pinterest board.
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Friday, May 01, 2020

Dear Inthe...My Boyfried Won't Propose




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Dear Inthe...

My boyfriend and I have been together for near three years now, and have lived together for 2  years and a half. We have a very solid and fulfilling relationship. he supports me, loves me just as I am and is ALWAYS there for me. Im 37 and he's 27. Everything is great except for one issue: marriage. I feel as if I have given everything I can into our relationship, mentally, physically and emotionally; and now I feel as though I need a commitment to go further. He says he is not ready to marry me and he doesn't know when it will be. He said he wants me forever but he doesn't like to get marry.



We live as if we are married so I don’t know how he can’t be ready. He says he doesn’t feel an urgency to get married, but I do.  We’re at a stand-still with this issue and I’m not really sure where to go from here. Im worried about our difference age as well and i think he will might leave me because he has cheated on me before. Please help in this tough decision. Should  I wait until he's ready and get on my knees to pray that God makes him want to get married sooner? Or do I leave this emotional and supporting man???
--Mimi.


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Friday, April 24, 2020

The 80/20 Rule of Why We Cheat And Leave Good Relationships Behind



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Have you guys heard of the 80/20 rule?

No? Let's talk about it.  The 80/20 rule supposedly explains why some people cheat and leave very good partners for "not so good" ones.
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Understanding this rule has been transformative  in helping me evaluate my motives and I believe it will help you guys as well.

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Friday, April 17, 2020

Dear Inthe, My Parents Dont Approve Of My Relationship.




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Hello Inthemidstofher,

I have been admiring how God-centered your advice has always been. I always thought that if I had a relationship dilemma, I would like the input of a Biblical centered sister as yourself to advise. I've met someone and unlike me, he is from a broken family and he is still coming up in his career. Together, we have been praying together in our relationship and we have had ups and downs and I have seen him stick to his words, I have also seen in him a desire to keep growing in his relationship in Christ - while he isn't always in Church, he does believe in Christ and he has encouraged me during down times either emotionally, when I need prayers or just someone to carry my groceries, run errands etc.

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Now comes my dilemma, my mother and father do not want this relationship.  I know I am to honor my parents, I also believe that one way God can speak to us is through our families, so I keep wondering if this is a sign of God's disapproval of my relationship*. 
Thanks,
Wondering heart
*Edited for privacy and brevity



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Friday, April 10, 2020

To The Girl Who's Never Been In A Relationship...



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I was recently speaking with a young woman who felt ashamed of the fact that she's never been in a relationship. Actually, she's not the first female to express the frustrations and stigma attached to her situation with me. It begs the question, is there a specific benefit to being in a relationship before marriage? In this episode, I explore this situation and share what I call the "Glass Theory" of a woman's heart.
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