Monday, January 10, 2011

Leaving your baggage behind....

Baggage:intangible things (as feelings, circumstances, or beliefs) that get in the way (Webster Dictionary)

Originally uploaded by » madelyn
A few nights ago, I was on a social network site. I was viewing a friend's page and from that particular page, I linked to another friend and then another...on and on... and then that's when it happened! I landed on a page that brought back a lot of memories.


When I got married; I sought the counsel of those around me. I knew it was God's will but I wanted the advice of others. A lot of people I told agreed in faith that hubby was the one but a particular person told me to break things off. Even after I took a step in faith with Hubby and began a relationship, this friend continually told me that Hubby wasn't the one.

Long story short, 2011 will mark my 2nd wedding anniversary with Hubby... and 1 yr without this friend in my life. This person, for reasons I still don't know decided our friendship was best dissolved; calls weren't returned, hangouts were missed, a chapter closed.

It wasn't intentional of me to end up thinking of this person but as I re- hashed events in my head, I wondered for the 100000th time if there was anything I could have done to change things...

What if I had asked... or what if I had gone... or what If I said

Hmm... This baggage was getting in my way

contemplating a long day with the ball and chain

Once again I was unearthing issues from past years; things God had placed to rest, things that shouldn't bother me...but ummh...well, still did!

For me, its a lost friendship but to others it is a broken relationship, the loss of family or the pain of a broken heart. Regardless of what its wrapped up in,it all leads to feelings of wonder, pain and especially in situations where we feel ourselves innocent of blame; a sincere cry of "Why!?"


Till this day, I don't know the answer to my own "Whys" but one thing I do know is that God has me inscribed in the palm of his hands and in situations where I can't see the forest for the trees, I can rely on the fact that he makes everything work out for my good. These thoughts give me the strength to "...focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead" (Phil 3 vs 13 NLT). Yes, I lost a friend but in return I have gained a husband, a son and a wonderful marriage that some people only dream about. In sorrow there has been a wealth of joy!

When we carry around bitterness and memories of the past, we lug around a weight that keeps up from moving faster and further into our future. These regrets shackle us to the past and have the luxury of rearing its ugly head at the most ill opportune time.

So what are you holding on too? What issues are getting in your way? Is it a broken heart, with pain so deep its hard to get out of bed? Is it anger; unforgivness so heavy it weighs down your spirit? Is it the loss of a loved one; sorrow so thick you can taste it? I am sorry you hurt but I have to tell you...

...This baggage is getting in your way

God has a plan for you and he is ready to place it in your hands. All he asks from you is to open your hands that are so tightly clenched to your past. Open your hands; to release your pain and receive your blessings. We can do this! You and I; let us"...strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us. We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith.Heb 12 vs 1 (NLT) We can do this!

Just let it go!
Ball and Chain

...Musings from atop the potter's wheel.


Jaycee said...

I love, love, love, love, love this post. And I know that I can do ALL things through Christ. Thank God that we can place all our burdens on Him and move forward.

There are worse-case scenarios. One comes to mind: what if you lose a friendship and notwithstanding you see this friend almost every single day (you have no options) and you have to make a conversation, yet it doesn't flow naturally any more?

I've been there...and the feeling is priceless. But with God, He gives the grace to rebuild friendships...even if it's with different dynamics from the past. It may no longer be the same kind of friendship, but it can transform into another kind. The seasons of friendships can change to mean something else. That has been my experience.

Lil Miss Thang said...

We can do this! You and I; let us"...strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up.

Those words gave me such inspiration. I too, through a social network site found myself thinking of memories of the past and what i could have changed, etc... the pain so bad it stopped me from getting out of bed. NOMORE. Gods got a plan for me, i'll keep my mind focused on Jesus for my future is so bright and i want to move further and faster into it. No more carrying baggage. This was truly a great piece. I'm glad you posted it ;-)

In the midst of her said...

@Jaycee-Thanks so much! In the situation you mentioned, you have to remember first and foremost that as a Christian you owe this "friend" a christian heart; regardless on how you feel, a warm "Hello and goodbye" is in order because no matter what the other person did, we too still have to give account for our own behavior. Easier said than done but God will give you grace!

LMT-Thanks for reading.... I know where you are coming from. God bless you and keep you and help you realise that you are stronger than the present. Each day, it will hurt a drop less till it is no more.

Ifunanya "IFNA" said...

Its funny immediately after writing the post "One Degree From Him". God immediately began to speak to me. Telling ...

-Why he has not allowed me to fully move forward
-Why my guiltless hands would endure something so cold.

He reminded me of Paul in the bible and the infamous thorn in his side. ( ONE OF MY FAVE BIBLE READINGS 2nd Cor 12: 7-10) . God who is all powerful, could instantly rectify my heart and remove that proverbial thorn. BUT GOD!!! (ugh I love him)!!!! Who created this very heart that bleeds at times, and knows his daughter in and out, said "No, Ifunanya I need you to endure this and learn from it". God said that this torn is necessary to remain there, to help Guard my heart from the same thing occurring again. He knows LOVE is my achilles tendon, and that even with warning, i will at times stray away from his perfect protection just for the sake of LOVE. So he indeed ... handed me over to myself, just for the sake of saying "YOU SEEE. I TOLD YOU"

So Yes its baggage, that may never leave me. But its how I choose to carry it ... how YOU choose carry it that will project your future. This baggage will not break me or shake me, its something I just toggle along. Be remind, that a fool buys two of the same identical bags for themselves. Therefore, next time I am presented with this nonsense bag, I can say abeg abeg carry go that bag is already in my closet! lol

ALSO another thing that helped was watching this Lauryn Hill Video that was all over the web this week. She hit alot of topics that relate to my post