Saturday, February 19, 2011

My "Glass Cup" theory...

Sazerac Cocktail

I have a heart for everything relationship and marriage....I mean biblical relationships and marriage.I have witnessed and even made mistakes regarding love and these experiences make me more than willing to share, advise and speak up about love. My girlfriends know I loooove the topic and will not bat an eye about you calling me up at 2 am for advice; well maybe before I had a baby..lol!. One thing I always tell my young ladies (Lol.. Here I am again sounding old when I am still rocking my twenties)is my "GLASS CUP" theory.


...and the room echos " glass cup theory"??" LOL

In my mind, I truly believe that a woman's heart is a glass cup and I am not talking frailty here! Imagine we're at a party, we're all having fun, doing our thang when I, at one side of the room, realizes I forgot my drink on the other side of the room. So I yell over to my girl Jaycee to pass it down. She passes it to the girl next to her who passes it to the girl next to her and so on. By the time it gets to me, I realize my virgin strawberry daiquiri is not only half gone but the glass has about 100 fingerprints on it. Now what are these fingerprints? Basically they are the markings; a stamp you could even say, of every person who touched it and now left behind.

I do believe that the woman's heart is like this glass cup because the more she passes it on, through everything from one night stands,flings,and mindless flirting to relationships that are going absolutely nowhere (We've been "courting" for 10 yrs but we're still seeking God's about marriage) we stain our hearts by carrying things of the other person into our marriage.

Imagine being married 5 years later with all the fingerprints of the men you went through on your heart. You love your husband but you realizes that he doesn't cook for you like Femi did ( forgetting the fact that Femi was cooking for about 100 other woman as well), he doesn't have the gorgeous smile that Yinka did ( even though Yinka's smile never lasted more than 10 mins before he usually blew up in anger) and last but not least he doesn't have half as much money as Yemi (even though Yemi ended up in Jail for 419). Consciously/Unconsciously, you start comparing, questioning and expecting things that may not be part of your hubby's personality package or something he is still growing into.

It is not only past relationships that leave a woman's heart " finger stained" It could be a bad childhood; (We Nigerians need to recognize rape is a REAL Nigerian epidemic shrouded by secrecy. Parents, instead of dealing with the issues either don't believe their children (more for their sake than of their kids) or send them away. But that is a topic for another day.) It could be a failed marriage, the loss of a loved one, anything!

But there's hope... Oh yes there is.

The bible says that

“Come now, let us settle the matter,” says the LORD. “Though your {Hearts...my interpretation} are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool. Isaiah 1 vs 18.

Wether you are going into courtship, enagagement,marriage or even been married for years. If you find yourself in this position. Agree with God and yourself to settle your heart...your past... this matter. It might mean confessing something, doing something or even refusing something. Whatever it is, it will need an action that only you can take.


...musings from atop the potter's wheel...

10 comments:

Jaycee said...

This post is too beautiful. I don't even have the right words to comment, but I know it's going to touch more than a few lives. It's amazing how you came up with the "Glass Cup" theory. The explanation of the fingerprints on the glass makes so much sense. Thank God that He settles matters of the heart.

BBB said...

our hearts like a glass cup,
so right
the grace of God it will take to remove those marking and leave behind a sparkling clean glass

H said...

Very well said.
Nice post!

doll said...

never quite thought of it like this...interesting

Yankeenaijababe said...

Very inspiring, we truly need Christ to settle our past so that we can move on to greater things, funny we all go through moments of our past hunting us. Thanks for sharing.

In the midst of her said...

Thank you all for the encouragement since I started this blog.

Working on the 2nd part of this post.....

Lil Miss Thang said...

Awesome post... Defo inspiring especially to those who need to take action and Thank God he is able to settle matters of the heart and wipe the glass clean. How great is thou art? :)

rethots said...

I love this post, especially the 'fingerprints' analogy.

Maid of Heart said...

I love love the analogy and it speaks volumes.

In the midst of her said...

Thank you ladies...