Monday, April 18, 2011

Appreciating Our Men

Oh No he didn't!!!!

Ollie's Filthy Stove



Those were the words that flew out of my mouth when I turned on the Kitchen lights this morning. There was oil and stew splattered all over my stove and I was ready to hurt my husband! I was fuming! I grabbed my phone and dialed my mom.


Me: Iya ni Wura are you up? I need to speak with you
Iya ni wura: What's wrong? Is everything ok?...
Me: Mom, I am so mad! I can't take this can you believe what happened? I woke up this morning and Hubby left my kitchen in a mess! I work hard all day and work and then come back to find my place in a mess? Why can't he help me out a bit...
Iya ni Wura: Calm down....calm down se! I can't believe you are calling me over a stove?
Me: This isn't only about the stove, it is about the African man! Even though I work as hard as he does, It's me who comes home to be the housegirl...Ahhh, e no go easy tonite ooh...
INW: Shut your mouth, when did you start talking rubbish like an "area girl".... calm down and start from the beginning...

Angry conversation by mobile phone


Me: ok...last night, hubby said he wanted to cook stew
INW: ok....
Me: I did not ask him oooh but he volunteered
INW: OK...
Me: So he started cooking... banging and clanging...I couldn't even watch my TV show
INW: This girl is not serious
Me: After a while, I was so tired I left him in the kitchen cooking and when I woke up this morning, the kitchen was a mess! You did not raise me to be a housegirl...I wont take this mom.
INW: OK, wait calm down, let me ask you some questions. So hubby volunteered to make soup last night for you?
Me: Yes...
INW: I guess while he was making it you were watching TV cuz you mentioned his banging of pots was distracting...
Me: Yes..
INW: What did you mean he burned you with hot oil?
Me: He was frying fish for the stew and while trying to feed me a piece of fish, some dropped on my arm...it was painful!
INW: ...and you mentioned you left him there to go to bed right? What time was this?
Me: About 12.30am, I think he was up till about 1 am

(Silence...)

Me: Mom...?? Mom...?

INW: I did not raise you to be a house girl but neither did I raise you to be an ungrateful feminist brat! Let me get this straight... Even though he had work in the morning your husband stayed up till the wee hours of the morning volunteering to make soup while you sat watching TV....fine...husbands can cook as well; but you are complaining because when he came to feed you fish some hot crumbs fell on you and over the fact that he didn't scrub the stove clean before he went to bed? Enhhh? Is this what you are calling me about?

Me: (Silence)

INW: He stayed up, helped with cooking, fed you treats while you watched TV.... and all this is erased because he did not scrub the stove at 1 am in the morning? Do you know how many women would sell their souls to have what you have...

Me:I didn't see it that way....I am sorry...



Disclaimer: Partly Fiction!
I did wake up to a messy stove but I did not call my mother..lol. The fact that hubby made stew and fed me little treats while I lounged watching TV completely made up for it. In fact, I was grateful for marrying a husband who did not see certain tasks as "women's work" and I knew that if he had the time, he would have scrubbed the kitchen clean. It was while I cleaned up the next morning that I jokingly thought of this story.

Women let's encourage and appreciate our men when they try to help; no matter the little mistakes that might accompany it. Some women don't have it that easy....

...musings from atop the potter's wheel...

11 comments:

doll said...

Love it. You are blessed to have him, and he is blessed to have you. Stay blessed both of you

Jaycee said...

Awwwwww...I loved this. Most times, we have to learn to see through the cracks and let gratitude come out of us.

Okeoghene said...

That is so sweet. There are not so many men who will cook without prompting. Enjoy the music playing too.

Talitha Koum said...

I agree with you! A lot of our men are underappreciated. There is nothing wrong with showing them how much we appreciate them! Slipping a note into his pocket or his lunchbox to tell him how much you appreciate him will go a long way! Great post!

In the midst of her said...

Thanks ladies!

Talitha:Thanks for joining!!! What a beautiful name, "Rise up child" is my life's prayer!

Jaycee:Amen...writing a post on that point exactly.

Okeoghene: Thanks for stopping by! Glad u're liking what you see.

Doll: Come join the "blessed" party girl....lol

Yankeenaijababe said...

You did not put the pictures yet..still waiting. A happy Easter to ya :=)

In the midst of her said...

YNC: Happy Easter to you too...I mentioned in the comment section of the previous post that I wouldn't be able to post pics cuz I have to abide by my hubbies privacy rules....sowwwy!

Anonymous said...

Great post! I always enjoy reading your write ups; they are very insightful and a blessing to read. God bless you. I am looking forward to your next post.

Anoda Phase said...

hmmm...your story is very familiar (minus the mum-calling)...Let's just thank God for hubands/men who don't feel too big to cook/clean/do other household chores...I'm grateful for mine, and I join u in thanking God for yours too.

rethots said...

Female corner......oops, *closes door and steps away*

In the midst of her said...

Rethots:Lol...thanks for stopping by but anyone would tell you that this blog is definitely pro-men. So don't be shy (or freaked out)....kick off your shoes and keep us company.