Sunday, May 15, 2011
Hi....My name is Ruth!
Have you heard the term before? If you are Nigerian but especially yoruba you might know what it means but to all my peeps who dont...it is a term used to describe a woman who loves her man even to the the point of death ( abokoku literally means " to die with your husband"). It was taken from the biblical story of Ruth who refused to leave her husband's home even after she became a widow.
Nowadays, it is a term used to describe a girl who loves her husband "too much". I have been called that name maaaaaany times but let me ask; why is it such a bad thing. If you have a man that loves, respects, pampers and treats you right, is it such a crime to love him just as much?
I have heard many ladies give/receive advice to "Never love your man with all your heart so that you don't end up used and abused"..."Only marry a man who loves you more than you love him so that you will never be too emotionally entangled to leave if you have to"
Once your man has worked and proven himself worthy of your heart; there is no point in being guarded. Sometimes we treat love as a weapon, trying to see who can hurt the other most or who can be the most untouchable in regards to pain brought on by the other.If your man has proven himself worthy of the key to your heart...just let go!
...musings from atop the potter's wheel...