Lawyer, Doctor, Architect, Engineer...
I have wanted to be a doctor since I was 6 and I always meet parents who tell their teens to be like me and want me to advise their them on becoming a doctor. Half these kids don't even WANT to be a doctor so, me being me, I will pull the kid aside and say "You better be what YOU want to be because working a job you hate is a slow death". I tell you, with all the hassles involved in my job (Not even going to mention the Vipers and Leeches aka "Health Insurance Companies and Malpractice Lawyers") it's the passion for medicine that keeps me here.
We Nigerians, are so prejudiced when it comes to things like this. When you meet us for the first time, within 5 mins of the conversation (even if its about something as random as the weather), we will find some way to find out what you do for a living. Hmm, if you turn around and mention anything less than the Mega 4 i.e Lawyer, Doctor, Architect, Engineer; Ol'boy you don miss road ooh. You might not be worth talking too.
Ladies,help me out, when you bring a guy home to your parents for the first time, one of the first things they ask after who his father is and what abule he is from, is what he does for a living.. correct? Yea, I thought so. I have no problems with this per se, but it's the closed mindedness to any other occupation that kinda ticks me off. There are millions of talented teens asking why they can't be writers or Actors or chefs??? WHY???!!!!!!
Right now, we are having the Nursing epidemic. Let me break it down for you. Everyone, as soon as they land on the shores of the US wants to be a nurse...EVERYONE! When I was in college, I was a triple major ( I don't know what I was drinking back then) Nursing, Pre-med and Psychology. Well, in my nursing class was this 50-ish year old aunty who just came from naija. She had been told that nursing was the way to go and without hesitation jumped into it. Maaaan, that woman suffered sha, btw not being able to stand blood to not being able to sit for the 1000000 hrs it took to study for those crazy classes, she could barely pass her tests. She would look at me with eyes screaming " Mo gbe...mo ti ku". All I could do was encourage her,knowing she had a lot of mouths to feed and nursing would be the way to it. By the way, me, after 1.5 semesters, I quickly soji'ed and dropped my nursing major and stuck with Psych/pre-med. I can't let one degree come and kill me. Hiss!!!
America is known as the land of opportunities and most of us are here because our home country couldn't provide the opportunities this country could; in the spirit of taking advantage of these opportunities, we need to be completely open to the different choices we have when it comes to professions. It's here that college drop outs become billionaires over night, fashion designers make more money than the president and people become rich from throwing a ball through a hoop.
It's time to break out of the old school ideology that if you are not one of a hand full of professions we will never make it. I completely understand that during our parents generation, only people in certain professions were deemed successful but times have changed. So if you want to be a writer, a fashion designer, model, actor, go for it! break the mold and reach for the stars! Let nothing hold you back!
Ps- If worse comes to worse, have Iya Banke beg your parents for you. LOL!
...Musings from atop the potter's wheel...