Tuesday, November 01, 2011

My name is Inthe...and I am a Manipulator!

Oh yeah, by the way, I scheme a lot too...

Wait, why is that such a bad thing?

According to the Webster dictionary:
Scheme:a plan or program of action; especially a crafty or secret one
Schemer:: to form a scheme for

Manipulate:to manage or utilize skillfully; to control or play upon by artful means especially to one's own advantage

And why do I do it? because I am in Love!

love

I am a schemer, a manipulator and by God's grace, I will continually be so. Why because it brings the joys of marriage to fruition. When I scheme and manipulate,I bring into existence what I see in my dreams and I love it!

Let me give you an example of my constant manipulation.
My husband came home early today and made rice for dinner; I walked in while it was cooking and without a word, walked into the kitchen brought out fish, gizzard, iru (locust beans),and orishirishi and cooked up the yummiest Ila asepo (Okra soup) this side of our town! As I type, hubby is chowing down, reciting all kinds of poetry about my food and the rice is in the kitchen untouched. Sure, I could have chilled on the couch and ate rice with him but I purposely manipulated the situation, made something I knew he would love more and double affirmed my role in his heart...and Stomach! LOL. I have completely spoilt my husband taste buds for any woman's food and it is not surprising to see my hubby text me about wanting my food while eating another person's.

Checkmate!

checkmate !!!

I have a vision of what I want my marriage to be and I am constantly on my knees about it; but I don't end there... Oh No.. I also create situations that will bring my dreams to life! I don't wait for my dreams to come true, I make them come true.

As a matter of fact, Hubby actually is the one to blame because he is constantly manipulating me. You should see the way he treats my family especially my mother! He has done away with all the negative stereotypes of "keeping your mother-in-law at arm's length" and has treated her like a queen and his own mother - fully knowing that my mom means the world to me! I bet he knows that loving my mother unconditionally only makes me love him more,which makes me love his mom more which make him love me more for doing that and that makes me....You get the picture right? It ends up being one big circle of manipulation

Will It Go Round In Circles?

Are you wondering why do I use the word "manipulation" instead of lighter, easier to hear words like "love"; well I have learnt that as humans, doing the right thing isn't always what we feel like doing...

Rom 7 vs 18,25: I don't really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don't do it. Instead, I do what I hate...

Although we know the basics of what it takes to keep a christian marriage happy, it isn't exactly easy making our flesh do it; if it was that easy, people wouldn't just " fall out of love", commit adultery or slack off and watch their marriages crumble. To manipulate is to control and my bible tells me to manipulate myself in order to live out the life and marriage he has in store for me.

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Ladies do you think I like working out at the gym all the time? Pls!!! but I have to manipulate/take control of myself in order to do that small gesture which ultimately brings a smile to the hubster's face and keeps his eyes glued to me!

Like I said in the beginning; My name is Inthe...and I am a manipiulator!

...Musings from atop the potter's wheel...

21 comments:

Unveilinggold said...

lol :-) hahah i didnt see manipulation in that light before..hmm a whole new perspective..

Morayo said...

Big hi5 to you for this post! I couldn't agree more and I also haven't seen manipulation in this light before but I have indeed learned a new thing and hopefully will put it to great use.

Did I mention that I absolutely love your blog and write ups? I do!

Hephzibah Bride said...

Lady, lady lady - you certainly have a calling with this blog! I love this and will be bookmarking! Like Unveilinggold said, I've never thought of manipulation like this before...this is a revelation.

Romans 12 comes to mind - renewing our minds - manipulating our minds.

May God bless you real good.

Jemima said...

This a different a perspective..i love it :)

In the midst of her said...

UV: Thanks! I didn't see it either till I got the inspiration from God

Morayo: Long time no see... Thanks so much for the love, it honestly means a lot!

Hephzi baby: I receive that prophesy oooh...In Jesus name! Amen and May God bless you too!

Jemima: Thanks so much... Marriage is definitely a teacher.

LE DYNAMIQUE PROFESSEUR said...

What a post! Totally AWESOME!

I mean, I love the way you chiseled the point. "I don't wait for my dreams to come true, I make them come true." It's high time our christian sisters recognize and see from this perspective. A good marriage involves work. Prayer is awesome, fasting is fantastic but faith without works is death! There is a measure of work for faith to be impeccable!

Thanks for sharing ma. I love your blog!

- LDP

In the midst of her said...

LDP: ma???? If you call me am again? I will personally fly down to NZ n ....lol kidding!! I am a baby, we're practically mates. No need for ma'ing n Sir'ing up in here. Thanks for reading!!

Morayo said...

I'm new here so it's perhaps someone else with same name that you know. been reading up your previous posts and I'm so blessed! Thanks X

Jaycee said...

LOL. I love this post so much. Do I need to add that you have an amazing calling and God-given gift for this blog? You know I don't...

BEAUTIFUL READ!!!

Lol @ LDP and calling people 'ma.'

In the midst of her said...

JC...My blog mom, you know I love you for loving it!

Highly Favored said...

Thank you so much for visiting my blog and commenting. I haven't been writing lateley but was using my blog reader to check the blogs I follow and the spirit lead me to check comments on my dashboard.

This is my first time on your blog and have been reading through your posts and enjoy your practical, down to earth, inspired writing.

I'm now a follower of your blog and hope you will follow me as well.

semiraunveiled said...

Hahaha. Funny how you make scheming and manipulating seem like a very wonderful thing. Thanks for that ingenious clarity. Thumbs up!

Ms. Yellow Sisi Unspoken said...

This is a beautiful post...never would have thought of manipulation is such a positive way...Thanks for sharing I'm bless

MissPweddyface said...

Awwww!... forget manipulation, that's just true love.

http://misspweddyface.blogspot.com

Anonymous said...

Spot on, sis! I was just having a similar conversation with a friend yesterday. Even as christian wives, we should not take our husbands for granted. They live in the world and see stuff going on around them, so take the time and effort to spice it up in your marriage. Serve it (whatever "it" may be) hot & sizzling!!! We need to put in the effort to make our marriage flourish. I couldn't agree more with LDP, when he said praying and fasting is good, but you need ACTION too! May God help us all- Amen!

Yewande S.

HoneyDame said...

I love you..I love your blog. I love how u have managed to ..... I cant even find the right words... This is an awesome post... it really is

Daughter of Her King said...

YOU ARE AMAZING....

I love the post and your blog..

I really need to stop commenting, but I cant help how you hit the nails on the HEAD.....

Akibo tommie said...

Read from you brings a smile to my face.

You are so articulate while i'm gushing about how i love reading from you and your writing style,

I also got the message, really great advice for single girls like us. def keep this in my left hand for the future. Time to create my dream :)

In the midst of her said...

Tommie: Spoken like a true yoruba girl! Leep dreaming but keep praying, God always hears his children. May all your dreams come true!!

Sapphire said...

Wow, Eziaha told me about this post and i have finally read it. i love, love, love. Good job inthe... my name is Sapphire.

naijawife said...

aww shucks. i don't have a manipulative bone in my body =)