Thursday, March 15, 2012

Dear Inthe...Is he too young?

Dear Inthe…
What do you think about dating/marrying someone 3 years younger than you?
Fine girl-No pimples

Mikey wearing Daddy's Work Clothes

Hey FG-NP! (Lol…over the name)
So you want to know what I think about ladies dating/marrying younger men. I know a lot of girls feel this is a big No-No, but I’ve come to know that in all things we need to seek the face of God. Its not about what I want but about what he says right??

We are saved born again children of God; because of this, we dont play by worldly rules... we play by God's say so. In this case, if you feel led by God to be with this guy, it does not matter one bit if he is 3 or even 4 yrs younger than you. A man of God has certain qualities of maturity that comes from the Holy spirit and a true walk with God; he might be younger in human yrs and muuuuuch older in Christian maturity yrs. On the other hand, you might find a guy who is muuuuuuuch older in human yrs and just a baby in the faith. If this younger guy has all you want and God confirms this...go for it; when you are ready in God's time.

My Love Rings True For You

But are you ready to get into a relationship with him? There are certain traits you want in a future husband, I wrote a whole post on my blog about this (and how I chose the hubster using 2Tim3) so you can check it out...Is he ready to settle down? Even though he is saved, do you share similar beliefs within the gospel? There are a lot of questions you have to ask in order to know what to do...

"My prayer for you is that you may still have more love–a love that is full of knowledge and wise insight. I want you to be able always to recognize the highest and the best, and to live sincere and blameless lives until the day of Jesus Christ..." (Phil 1 vs 9)

In all things, seek God in prayer and he will lead the way...

Musings from atop the potter's wheel...


Okeoghene said...

Before you can be thinking of marrying someone there is a level of maturity and qualities that he should possess. If he has all that and age is the only barrier, i think it is a non-issue. Age is not evident on the face except he is 18 and you are 24.


Hmmm... I like your reply ma :)
We don't walk by sight but by faith.


Omoregee said...

I have this uncle whose wife is three years older than him, if you are not told, you wouldn't know. People are a bit skeptical when the woman is older perhaps because of the belief that says girls mature faster than boys and if you compare the two genders of same age, the lady is usually more mature which is why some people advice ladies to marry guys that are at least 3 years older than them to get the kind of maturity they require.
Also some feel if the lady is older, she may not respect the guy or perhaps see him as an aburo.

I agree with you, there's no laid down nor hard and fast rule and age doesn't necessarily determine our level of maturity. What God says trumps every other idiosyncrasy. I would just like to add that the two parties should have an understanding and be able to handle the age difference without it bringing any issues to their relationship.

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Anonymous said...

but you are wrong for the main picture tho! looooool!!!!
"that one tooo young gaaaan!" lol

Ms. Yellow Sisi Unspoken said...

I love your response to this. "A man of God has certain qualities of maturity that comes from the Holy spirit and a true walk with God;" definitely did get me thinking :)