Monday, June 25, 2012

While you wait…Educate!

1 Cor 7 vs 34: In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband.


As a female, but especially as a nigerian female, I know how important marriage is. It's a part of life  we dream about from childhood. We want our own knight in shining armor coming to save us and whisking us off into our own personal fairytale. Well, while some get that dream coming true at a very young age, some have to wait longer, and of course, some are still…well..waiting.


Yoruba traditional wedding (Nigeria)

What are we supposed to do while we are waiting for our own dream to come true. Everyone and their mama's are getting married, every aunty in a 2 continent radius is constantly asking when you are going to m'oko wale and due to the changes in our social climate, some people are even asking if you're "batting for the other team" ( Get my drift? lol)

One thing that is absolutely true about marriage is that it consumes your time. No longer are you thinking only about yourself, you are now to consider another person with EVERY decision you make. With this in mind, I tell my single girls to try and live their single lives to the fullest but some don't know what this means.

Here are suggestions on what to do while waiting…

1-Educate yourself



   I did not meet the hubster till my mid twenties and we did get married till  I was in my late  (emphasis on the "late") twenties. Luckily enough my parents never whined about this because I was in school. I had promised myself that I was not going to get married till I was out of medical school ( Lol…I got married 2 weeks after graduation). I needed this time for myself. I wanted to aggressively and selfishly have my everything donated to my education without having to explain myself to anyone. Can you imagine someone telling a man on their honeymoon that she was about to go into something that will cost them possibly hundreds of thousands? Yeah right! Where are you with your education or your career? Do you still want to go to school, or are you eyeing a change in career? Or are you considering opening your own business or writing a book? Educating yourself goes well beyond the realm of a classroom or a traditional school. This is the time to MOVE! Get out there, shake, break, rebuild, adjust, analyze and build yourself into a better person.  While you are in this waiting season, use this time to build who you are going to be; a better person. Not only does it take your mind off of the trials of being single, but it also makes you a better package for the asking.


Don't worry my dear… Love is waiting, it won't leave you behind. Till we meet again, enjoy this song by one of my favorite artists, Brooke Fraser.







To be continued…


Musings from atop the potter's wheel...

6 comments:

sugarspring said...

this is a lovely post ma'am and an inspiring one at that.
glad to follow you

pearlzville T.O said...

this is so right! get a masters or a doctorate. There is no rush in life

Jennifer Abayowa said...

Educating yourself is the best investment you can ever make while you're single. And when he arrives on the scene, you'll be more than ready...

Destiny - Yankeenaijachick + Success said...

this is so true, nothing like a lady being educATED. mY FATHER WOULD NOT EVEN ALLOW ME TO MARRY WITHOUT A BACHELOR DEGREE.LOL I HAD TO GET THAT FIRST BEFORE MENTIONING MARRIAGE.LOL

Tosin said...

if you haven't noticed..i'm 'creeping' your blog. I LOVE Brooke Fraser!

E' said...

Oh wow
Just amazing
Someone put this up on my blog after I had written a post on #while you are waiting... For single ladies. Looks like u spoke my mind here
Fab darling
I should follow ds blog already...
Cheers
E'