Saturday, June 15, 2013

My name is Inthe…and I am a Architect!

…was going to say carpenter but I thought how razz that was…lol


As  I mentioned, 2013 is all about building my matrimonial home. One thing I’ve noticed is that as a woman, I dictate the mood of the house. If I’m happy, man…. the whole house is happy with me. Even if the hubster comes home tired and grumpy, my mood  brings him out of his shell and before you know it, he’s on my wavelength.

Hmm… it works the same the other way. If I’m in a bad mood, the hubster and baby boy could be on cloud 9. Slowly but surely, I would suck the life out of the house till everyone is down in the dumps with me. 

Provs 14 vs 1:The wise woman builds her house but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down

I am truly beginning to understand the power a woman has over her man especially when he loves her unconditionally. You literally hold his heart in your hands to either nurture it or destroy it.  That’s power y’all. I’m blessed to have that kind of power but the question is what am I doing with this.
Hold It Sweetly

Am I using the access to the hubster's heart for good or for evil? Am I using it to opress him, intimidate him, control him or manipulate him ( and I am not talking about the good kind of manipulation). I have seen so many situations where wives go to great extents to gain the upper hand in their marriages. Ok, fine, you want the upper hand but what are you doing with this “upper hand”? The access God gives us to our husbands hearts should be used to nourish him and bring out the best in him. Our men should feel like super heroes that are constantly saving the day in their women's lives. Your man should feel invicible in your arms. Let me be honest with you, I love to make the hubster feel like “the Man” in our home. For example ( don’t laugh ooooh) I sometimes pretend I can’t open jars and ask for help or need him to hold my hand to cross the street. Remember I’m two-faced abi?

a jelly jar of smiles

Matt 7 vs 6 (NIV): Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. if you do,they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.

Let me take this opportunity to clarify something. The things I share on this blog work. I can testify because they are rooted in the word of God. I am constantly seeking christian ways to build my marriage and take it as far away from the norm as possible ( 50% of the church is divorced y’all!! )  but it only works in godly relationships. I would never surrender my heart, body or let down my guard emotionally and mentally to a man who is not worthy of it. My heart and affection is a treasure of great worth!
18|365 - A Treasure Worth Hunting
 A man who is not already himself grounded in the true word of God will never understand how to truly love you ( I don’t care how “great” he works your body….that aint love!!!!). A man of God knows he is to love you like Christ loves his bride. Using Christian “tricks" to win a “unchristian" man is like using pictures on a blind man…complete waste of time. If this post finds you a christian married to a non-christian man, thats a completely different ball game, go ahead, use these tips, 1Pet 3 vs 7 allows it. On the other hand, if you are using this to try to start/improve/move to marriage a relationship with an unbeliever, you are casting your pearls before swine; he will never understand the true worth.

…musings from atop the potter’s wheel…

Ps: Not quite sure how old I present myself to be (maybe I talk all old fashioned or something) but I am truly not that old. I get a lot of emails and comments with “ Yes ma, No ma, Of course ma, God bless you ma…” while i appreciate the respect, a beg oooh, I am still a baby oooh. No more ma’ing me pls oooh.  Thank you!!!!


Ajaero said...

Yes ma!!!
Me I did a quick calculation and knew your age already!!! I tot 31 or 32 this year sha
Oh yea ooooooo
No need working these principles on an unbel...
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Salt said...

In the midst of her, I don't care how 'young' you are, your words are wise! May God continue to nourish your life and marriage as you continue to let his heart beat in your chest......

Thought-provoking post!

In the midst of her said...

E’licious….Ose oooh!!! Hmm, calculator for real!!!

Salt: Thank you ma! may God bless you and strengthen you!

Beeee said...

Great post, so true. lol@ at how you just called out anyone who started reading it and was thinking of applying this to get a non God-loving man to marry them.

I love it, especially because it takes the focus off us women while challenging us at the same time.. Its beyond us getting married at the right age to the dream man, checking that box and then figuring out how to manage our perfect lives. In a God centered relationship, we do have a responsibility.

I love lovee how InThe is so confident and sure of her relationship with her husband. Being able to say...I have been blessed with that power but what am I doing with it.
I aspire :) :) xxx

Feyisola said...

You are such a blessing o jare..
Anything I read your post I just think.. This woman is ever so on point.. And the love you have for God is so, so appealing.. You make me longer each time!
And about the age.. Me I guessed right.. I sure did my mathematics well*bats eyelids*

Akibo tommie said...

Some of us are actually small enough to call you ma :)

God has blesses you with so much wisdom, don't blame us.

May God continue to bless you and your marriage

In the midst of her said...

Bee: No be my fault...I had to warn a couple of sistahs!! lol. I am not confident in my marriage, I am confident in God, he is the 1st in this relationship and as long as I keep him so, hmmm, the hubster go take, he will keep on eating out of the palm of my hand and I out of his. ( No tell am

Feyi: Thanks so much for the blog love. May we both grow in the wisdom of God together!!! Hmm, calculator...keep calculating!!!

Tommie: now you are making me feel old God bless you and keep you always!


I just love ur words. Even though this appears strictly written for the Christian woman, I am glad I read it. True words. Blessings ma.


Anosime said...

Abi o, me I can't leave my heart and affection for someone who isn't worth it. Ah! Marriage is for life abeg; one cannot afford to throw one's pearl to swine.
...And wow you are so young oh. As always loved the post.

sykik said...

Words of wisdom......learnt from the post and will definitely apply tips in my home....nothing beats a happy home

Chizy K said...

i agree a wooman creates d atmosphere in d home. great/ mature write up

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Wemmie said...

Bless you.

jessii said...

after fabulous you re my bestest blogger. your blog are so real. even though i am not married i yearn to be married so i can put to practise what i have learnt from you

Frances Okoro said...

Ehen,I see where the "No Ma thing" came from.but what if we are young enough to call u ma na???