Saturday, June 22, 2013

Words are Cheap...



Hey Ladies and gentlemen gentleman (besides, the hubster, I think  I have like 1 sole male reader. If you are a guy besides Sir Me Sir, pls show some love in my comment section). Happy Friday! Yay!! I’m super happy because of many things, for one, in a few hours, my friends and I will be taking a road trip to Atlantic City and also, Babyboy and I will be spending a couple of days this coming week with my parents. So its a packed next few days but its going to be fun!!! So what does this have to do with  my title… hold on… be patient.

Winter shadows


So amid all these preparations, I sensed the hubster was taking it a bit hard. Dont get me wrong, my baby daddy is ALL man but he also loves having his lovelies around him. Due to other exciting things going on, baby boy and I are taking this trip alone and I KNOW he was  conflicted about it. He wanted us home this weekend… I wanted to be out this weekend but he wanted us in this weekend….whats a submissive godly wife to do???

Provs: 18 vs 21: Death and Life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it shall eat its fruits.
Contemplation

 So what did I do? I went to the hubster and said “ I know you don’t want me to go, but I really want too. Please, If I am to go, I really need your blessings for this trip”.  Why did I say this? because words are cheap! Not the way you are thinking though; let me explain. Most words don’t cost us a thing; we use a couple million everyday without even blinking. The same ease with which you can say G’morning, you can use to say “To hell with you”. With the same ease at which I asked the hubster for his blessings; basically putting the decision in his hands, I could have said “ Ol’ boy deal with it!!!" A few years back, that’s exactly what I would have told him; after all I was his wife not his daughter.  The hubster ( the gentleman that he is) would have left me to my own plans, he wouldn’t be happy but he knew that when my mind's made up, its basically a wrap!  He wouldn’t  force his will on me, he just wasn’t that kind of man. Well, things have changed these past years and you all know my plans for this new year.

Provs 15 vs 1: A soft answer turns away wrath...

Change.

Lol…. I wish I could show you a picture of the hubster’s face when I said those words. Shock is an understatement. Here I was submissively putting my plans into his hands giving him the power to make it or break it. He said “ Inthe…wow! Thank you so much for asking my permission, you could have easily done as you please but thank you for considering me.” What did it cost me to say those words? A drop of humility! but what did they do for me? They brought me prestige, love from the hubster and they made him feel respected as a man and the leader of our home. It’s amazing how much benefit you can get from just following the word of God.

I RESPECT my husband

Lesson of the day? Words are cheap, don’t be afraid to spend them. Oh by the way, are you curious to know the hubster’s final decision about my trip? Scroll back up to the first paragraph, the answer is right there….*Grin*


…Musings from atop the potter’s wheel…



Ps: I found out I was nominated for the Christian Blog awards. If this blog has ever blessed you in one way or another, I would LOVE for you guys to go to Godsspeacialgirls and place a vote for Inthemidstofher. Thanks!!!

10 comments:

rethots said...

"...I really need your blessings for this trip." got your what you wanted. However, and much more importantly, those are not just words but, you acknowledging your husband has a responsibility to protect you.

Some will call the 'responsibility', 'submission'.

In the same manner, the response a woman gets from her husband after saying those words should be deemed an expression of 'love'.

Love in actual fact is the obligation the husband has to his wife.

E' said...

First Inthe...
You dont know for sure that you have only one male reader aside the hubster... It was a male reader on my blog that directed me to yours ooo. There are a billion ghost readers and im sure a significant few are men...
I love your HUBSTER...
Thankfully, I go me one from where he came from...
Jehovah bu Eze
Have a lovely trip dear. the only trip i am looking forward to now is that kind that takes you to the moon, with a lot of honey to the boot...
I am incredibly looking forward to it...
As usual, you ROCK yo!!!
xoxo
E'

E' said...

BTW, it is your pictures on your posts that thrill me the most... I know ehere they come from but most are copyrighted now... How do you do? Help a sister out!!!
*puppy eyes*

Ginger said...

A beautiful lesson all the better for sharing with us.
That vice called pride, smh, and the mouth that speaks without thinking.....

Hope you had a lovely trip.

Oy said...

Firstly I'm a guy and I read your blog often - not just a frequent commenter as LDP.

In fact you know me to a certain extent - you once posted my story on your blog (the guy at crossroads on whether to marry a lady from a different christian denomination from his). BTW we are married now and all I can say is that my marriage is really sweet :)

Now to the blog story, I can soo relate to the the issue.... I tell my wife that the fastest way to get anything from me is by soft words with plenty toasting, gragra no go work with me. It works sharply like eba with egusi soup - topped with eran igbe :)

Cheers

In the midst of her said...

Rethots; Thanks for the comment. I feel your words, the authority my husband has over me is a form of covering and protection God has ordained. I have learned that Submission, respect, leader and authority are not bad words, they just have been abused by bad people.

E’licious: I stand corrected! I abs LOVE pics and art, i get them from flickr and they always lead back to the original artist.


Ginnger: *Sigh* Abii!!!!! Thanks for reading

OY: Ennnh.. i wasn’t even invited to the wedding…lol. Congratulations and may the sweetness become even sweeter! Amen. Thanks for being a male reader…tell all your friends!

1 + The One said...

Awww.. You make marriage look and 'read' so pleasant.. May God continue to bless your home xx

Priscy said...

awww... this is really beautiful. enjoyed reading. lessons well noted! thanks for sharing.

Blessing said...

Wow, 9ice one! Wise woman thingz...thanks I'll be using that method in the near future.

ede Isibor said...

i love,love,love!!!