Hey guys, a break in our “Inthemidst of his perspective” transmission to bring a “Dear Inthe…” Q. Enjoy!
Are we supposed to ask God for what we want in a husbands? or do we just wait and see whichever he decides to give to us? i ask because the word can be really confusing these days; one pastor say’s let God’s will be done, don’t set standards or lists. Another minute, another man of God says yo better open your mouth and ask!
A faithful Anon
*- Edited for brevity.
I assume you mean asking God for a man with particular physical not character qualities? Cuz everyone wants a man who is faithful, loving, loyal, true etc…..
So you want to know if its biblical to ask God for a husband who is tall and foooooiiiiinnnnnne. Marriage can be scary; I know I was scared before I got married more because I knew I had to relinquish my desires into God’s hand. Do you know what I think your true underlying question is? I think you are saying “ Inthe…Can I truly trust God with my future partner?” I hear you!
This is a question me, you and a lot of people have asked. Is God really that faithful? Can I truly trust his judgement with this part of my life? I don’t want an “ugly somebody ooh.” Can I let go of my preconceived notions of what I want in a man and free fall into his love trusting he’ll catch me?
Abowaba..I’ll come back to this later.
Some Pastors say “ God’s will be done” Others say “Open your mouth..” So what is the truth? My dear, the truth starts from knowing God’s word for yourself. To my understanding and belief, these two statements are the same thing. Lets look at them:
God’s will be done:
Psalm 119: 86: Forever thy word is settled in heaven…
God’s word about you has been settled from the beginning to time. From eons ago, God has decided to love you and planned every circumstance to lead you back to him. Even when you walk out of his path, he will "…make everything work together for our good” and that good is the same desire for you to be with him for the rest of time. So like Jeremiah say’s God’s will for you is good and not of evil…
What about saying what you want? Let’s look at scripture.
Romans 10 vs 9: If thou shall confess with your mouth…
Confessions are an important part of the Christian walk. We are supposed to confess and speak faith in all situations in our life. So what should we be speaking about our love life? My dear, you can not speak anything greater than the world of God. because (2 Tim 3 vs 16): All scripture is breathed by God. That means God’s blessings and power is in his words and with every word, he has released the power to bring it into accomplishment. You can not want greater than God already wants for you and he says (Isaiah 55 vs 11) his words will not return to him void.
So you want a fine guy, my dear, he’s already spoken it for Song of Song 4 vs 7 says : You are altogether beautiful and there is no blemish in you. You want a guy with money…kudi….Owo right? Luke 6 vs 38: God will bless you, your portion will be “….pressed down, shaken together and running over will…” and so on.
Know what God says, pray his will be done and speak that will over your life. Remember the bible says (2 Corint 4 vs 13): I believed and so I spoke so speak it!
I hope this encourages you.
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