Saturday, November 09, 2013

Dear Inthe…Can I truly say "thy will be done"?


 Hey guys, a break in our Inthemidst of his perspective” transmission to bring a “Dear Inthe…” Q. Enjoy!


Dear Inthe...
Are we supposed to ask God for what we want in a husbands? or do we just wait and see whichever he decides to give to us? i ask because the word can be really confusing these days; one pastor say’s let God’s will be done, don’t set standards or lists. Another minute, another man of God says yo better open your mouth and ask!

Left or right?

Thanks
A faithful Anon
*- Edited for brevity.


I assume you mean asking God for a man with particular physical not character qualities? Cuz everyone wants a man who is faithful, loving, loyal, true etc…..

So you want to know if its  biblical to ask God for a husband who is tall and foooooiiiiinnnnnne. Marriage can be scary; I know I was scared before I got married more because I knew I had to relinquish my desires into God’s hand. Do you know what I think your true underlying question is? I think you are saying “ Inthe…Can I truly trust God with my future partner?” I hear you! 

Free Fallen (71/365) ::11/52 weeks::
This is a question me, you and  a lot of people have asked. Is God really that faithful? Can I truly trust his judgement with this part of my life? I don’t want an “ugly somebody ooh.” Can I let go of my preconceived notions of what I want in a man and free fall into his love  trusting hell catch me?

Abowaba..Ill come back to this later.

Some Pastors say “ God’s will be done” Others say “Open your mouth..” So what is the truth? My dear, the truth starts from knowing God’s word for yourself.  To my understanding and belief, these two statements are the same thing.  Lets look at them:

God’s will be done:
Psalm 119: 86: Forever thy word is settled in heaven…
God's Will
God’s word about you has been settled from the beginning to time. From eons ago, God has decided to love you and planned every circumstance to lead you back to him. Even when you walk out of his path, he will "…make everything work together for our good” and that good is the same desire for you to be with him for the rest of time. So like  Jeremiah say’s God’s will for you is good and not of evil…

What about saying what you want? Let’s look at scripture.
Romans 10 vs 9: If thou shall confess with your mouth
Ask Seek Knock...
Confessions are an important part of the Christian walk. We are supposed to confess and speak faith in all situations in our life. So what should we be speaking about our love life? My dear, you can not speak anything greater than the world of God. because (2 Tim 3 vs 16): All scripture is breathed by God. That means God’s blessings and power is in his words and with every word, he has released the power to bring it into accomplishment. You can not want greater than God already wants for you and he says (Isaiah 55 vs 11) his words will not return to him void.

So you want a fine guy, my dear, he’s already spoken it for Song of Song 4 vs 7 says : You are altogether beautiful and there is no blemish in you. You want a guy with money…kudi….Owo right? Luke 6 vs 38: God will bless you, your portion will be “….pressed down, shaken together and running over will…” and so on.
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 Know what God says, pray his will be done and speak that will over your life. Remember the bible says (2 Corint 4 vs 13): I believed and so I spoke so speak it!

I hope this encourages you.

Blessings

Inthe.

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18 comments:

Debby Dyk said...

Thanks inthe... For your encouragement.
Today's post didn't frighten me, even a bit on getting married...
#selfimprovement
Lol
You rock girl

jhazmyn said...

I concur In the...both are one and the same cos when we pray..we ask...and He teaches us to ask in accordance with His will. So by all means, ask, He has a habit of exceeding our expectations, we just need to learn to trust

jhazmyn said...

I'm not sure if its a result of the editting though, I kindda got the feeling that she was also wondering "how" she can be sure the dude is Gods will for her since she did not see a physical vision or hear an actual voice, all she had was just a peace in her spirit. Seemed to me like she was wondering if that was enough

Anonymous said...

Yes Jhazymn, I toyally agree with you. It seems to me too that she was asking more about how to be sure the guy is the one for her and also, if following her heart was enough for something as serious as a relationship.

Frances Okoro said...

I think,"Blessings"! Amen!
Thank u!
His will is perfect and He indeed heareth me when I speak forth what I want...blessings,amen!

Relentless Builder said...

I agree with this part especially: "You can not want greater than God already wants for you." If you want to know if a person is right for you, then you need to start training your spirit man to hear from God on less important issues. In other words, you should learn to recognize the voice of God. I don't think there is a hard and fast rule, but ultimately, God will not ask you to do things outside his word e.g. marry an unbeliever.

Nik said...

dear in the,
Im not sure you answered the question. I have always had the same question. Does God show you the person you are meant to marry or you just go with your conviction.
Thanks in advance.
Appreciate you

naijawife said...

But wait o. I think she wanted direct "step by step" instructions on how to hear God's will. (I know i did!)

Tosin Eyebiokin said...

Oh dear! This is a very interesting and inspiring piece. Hmmm, it is truly hard to trust God completely with the choice of a life partner but when we do,he give us the best. Keep up the good work.
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Abi Tobi said...

hmm errr maybe do a post on how to "know" a certain somebody is God's will for us?

Personally, I DO NOT think God will give me someone I am not attracted to. I have in some situations tried to have "chemistry" or work to make someone attractive but I couldn't even go beyond being acquintances or casual friends (usually not close friends)... anything that relates to these guys in my intimate life grosses me out and yet "everyone" wants you to try them out...

Are God's plans not good for us?.. I do not believe God will give us someone whom we wouldn't want to be with now or forever.. no convictions or feelings... how do we build a relationship on emptiness?

sometimes, I feel like the church "over- scripture-lizes" everything.. how can we young single people make it more practical..

lol... I just posted my own "dearInThe..." haha .. looking forward to your response


Anonymous said...

Dear Inthe, you said on twitter that you had re-answered the question na, and I rushed down here to read it.lol. Is it just me or this was what was here before?

The Cube Notes said...

Marriage is often portrayed as the main source for meeting our needs and desires for emotional and physical fulfillment and pleasure, and even for fulfilling God’s purposes for us as men and women. But if this were true God would make sure that each person not only got married, but married someone perfectly suited for them in every way. This happens far less that we fantasize that it does!
There are many things we think we absolutely need. But a true need in God’s eyes is anything essential for fulfilling His purposes for us and for making us whole people (spiritually healthy). A need is a true deficiency, lack or shortage of something essential in our lives.
A "want", on the other hand, is not something that is essential, but something which is enjoyable in the process of fulfilling God’s purposes. It is a hankering, longing, pining or yearning for something that we would like to have to enrich our lives here on earth.

Anonymous said...

Dear inthe, thanks a lot for always answering readers questions with such wisdom and clarity, but errrmmmm, can you please do some more of your own regular posts - I so love and miss seeing them. Thanks in advance. (hugs)

sykik said...

Very interesting comments.

I think most people are trying to understand how to hear God speak, or how to ascertain God's will....it starts basically with what our relationship with God is.....a child knows the father's voice....as a believer we should be able to decipher God's voice and when we are working in his will.

It is well.

naijawife said...

Just remembered this post. I'm going to buy http://www.amazon.com/Decision-Making-Will-God-Alternative/dp/1590522052#reader_1590522052 this book called Decision Making - Will of God and see how that goes!

DarLyn said...

Hmm some big question there. Me like the answer too. The answer always lies in seeking God before you get to the point of needing some answer this big else every thought/ preference in your heart sounds like the long awaited answer and every good looking brother causes you to ask "God is this the one?"

temitime said...

God's greatest will for our lives is that we have a deep relationship with him through Christ, once you have that down I believe everything else will be added according to his purpose. #surrender mathew 6:33

Uje Alfred said...

I've had this on my mind for a while, and its really hard I must confess...
But am encouraged and inspired

Thanks Inthe

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