Friday, September 04, 2020

Dear Inthe, Let's talk about Phone Sex

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Dear Ma,
I read your blog once in a while, and I must thank God for the things He's been able to accomplish through you. Well done Ma.
I have a question though, somehow I feel I already know the answer but just want clarifications.  Is it wrong to talk about sex with your partner? I'm in a long distant relationship and every now and then "such" feelings come up and over the phone, things happen... He's made his intentions known, though of course I've never been active, but since he came along, we've had some cuddly/playful moments, not the main deal of course... I'm 25 and by God's grace, I'll be settling down this year, I just want to know what you think about playing with my partner over the phone.


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Anonymous said...

Hi, Inthe... I understand your post was about an unmarried couple, but I still want to ask this... do you think it's a sin when a married couple engage in phone sex?
I am married and once, while continents apart, my spouse and I sent nudes to each other and engaged in phone sex and I didn't feel it was dirty or wrong, even though there was mutual self-pleasure. We are no prudes and are quite adventurous, but that was the only time we've done that.

What do you think about that, though? Was the marriage bed 'defiled'? Did it matter that we were miles apart? While I don't feel we did wrong, I'm still curious to know what you think and if u could add any insight, based on what the word of God says. I am aware that a lot of people believe that when certain sexual acts are between a man and his wife, it is no sin, as long as there is no clear (biblical) depravity involved. Do you know any bible passages that negate that opinion?

I look forward to your response. You do really great work with these questions and I enjoy reading your blog. God bless you!

IntheMidstofher said...

Hey Anony#1: Girlfriend, I could write a whole post about that Q( maybe I but the short answer is there is absolutely nothing off limits between husband and wife as long as they BOTH agree to the act. I have so much scripture to back this up but I dont want to turn the comment section into a post. Lol... If you want scripture, email me.
Ps..Thanks for writing in!

1 + The One said...

InThe!!! I get excited when I see that you have a new post up!
Great advice and I like how you always balance/rationalise your response to questions.
More grace, thank you for being a teacher! xxxx

Unveilinggold said...

Interesting. Thanks for sharing as always

IntheMidstofher said...

1+: *Blush*...Thanks sis!

Unveilinggold: Thank you!!!

Anonymous said...

I just looove you InThe you are a wise woman. Thanks for the insight, i've always been against any kind off sexual talk when not married and it wasnt from a scripture standpoint, just me being miss goody goody. I'm happy for this insight from the word.


IntheMidstofher said...

Lekwe: I so luuuuuuuuuuvvvvvvv you for looooooooving me! Lol. All this "wisdom" is from the Lord and I am appreciative of it.

Blogoratti said...

Interesting thoughts...thanks for sharing this post!

Adenike Adedokun said...

Nice response. Great teaching keep it up.

Anonymous said...

Wow, indeed , God Almighty has really blessed you, you a such an intelligent person.
This is an eye opener.I am a culprit of this in my past relationship and I pray to God for forgiveness and my friend too, who was my then boyfriend.

I learned this today and I pray to God to make use of it when the need arises.Thanks a great deal for sharing your knowledge . It will help a great lots of people now and in the future.

God be praised, Amen.