Sunday, December 13, 2015

Soul Ties Part 2: Fear

 Whom have you so dreaded and feared that you have not been true to me, and have neither remembered me nor taken this to heart? Is it not because I have long been silent that you do not fear me? -Isaiah 57: 11

So in my last post, we discussed how sex created soul ties. This week, I want to bring up another creator of soul ties; are you ready for it? FEAR.
I've seen this too many times for comfort and unfortunately, it tends to be the lady on the fearing side. A couple in a relationship and the woman willing to bend over backwards accepting of ANYTHING the guy brings because she's afraid of losing him. Be it infidelity, abuse or even the lack of 1Tim3'ness  just because she is afraid of life without him

dont leave me

Rom 8:15: For you have not received a spirit of bondage again to fear

Before you snicker and shake your head, let me explain something to you.  Fear itself, is as much a bond as sex. In a relationship, fear is a bondage that allows the worse things in life entrance into your life.  Let me give an example, you know I like

Imagine a super soldier, someone trained in the art of fighting, tall and strong, guarding treasure. It would be really difficult for someone to come in and rob him of the treasure right? Ok, Now imagine this same soldier being placed in a cage; even a baby could rob him blind and take advantage of him right? Why? because in bondage, our super soldier is powerless...he has gone from a super soldier to a slave. Just like that! well, in a relationship where one partner lives in fear, s/he lives in bondage and that bondage makes you accept the unacceptable because you are powerless. 

Someone scare her!

Afraid of what?  ANYTHING...
- Never falling in love again
 - Never finding someone who fulfills ( financial, emotional, physical) needs that her current guy seems to be doing.
- Afraid that your partner might hurt himself if you leave
There is one more group of people I have to mention; people in relationships because they are afraid of what other people might say or do. Yes, I've heard it too many times: Inthe, I am afraid to leave because Holy Reverend mother Teresa and Prophet James told me he is the ONE for me. God wont sit down and plan your life with other people without bringing you into the conversation! Your relationship with him is intimate, if you'll listen, he would gladly show you his plans.

1 John 4:18: ...because perfect love expels all fear...

Ok, I can hear some people in the crowd: No, In the you are wrong, I am NOT powerless, I stay because I am in love!  Sorry to break it to you sister but the mere fact that you are fear tells me you are not in love because the bible says what? Perfect love casts our fear! Just like it being impossible for light and darkness to co-habit, it's impossible to be in love and in fear at the same time. Let me clarify something... "Perfect Love" does not mean 2 perfect people in love ooh. Perfect love means love blessed by the father!  God is love and when he is invited into a relationship, he perfects the love between the 2 people.  I am no where close to perfection but I know without a shadow of a doubt that I am in perfect love with my hubster! it's going to take God himself to separate our three-fold cord.

First Date Landmark Diner

Next post, we'll close out this series with the last instigator of Soul Ties...Stay Tuned!

...Musings from atop the potter's wheel


Deborah Dike said...

I am tuned-in already... Lol
Great post.
Thanks for constantly being a blessing.
God bless.

Ife.O said...

Inthe, you have been missed. This message is so spot on by the way. "Fear of never falling in love again"... this is so real, but thank God for his love. Is that you and the hubster in the last picture? Lol

1 + The One said...

"God wont sit down and plan your life with other people without bringing you into the conversation!" - Words on marble!

Spot on as usual. Sometimes we underestimate just how powerful fear is in relationships! Fear of the unknown, fear of never 'feeling this way again'.. Lord help us!

The Fashion Engineer said...

Thanks for explaining the perfect love verse I never really got it