Friday, November 29, 2019

Dear Inthe... Oral Sex.

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In this week's episode, I answer a #DearInthe question about oral sex. What are your thoughts on it? Is it a sin? Share your comments below. 

First, I would like to appreciate your directness and from your responses to questions I believe you really do have the holy spirit.My question to you is a very uncomfortable one and I do hope you would respond to it. I've been married for some years now and I'm happy to say our family is definitely one of God. 


 There's this question in my mind about oral sex, is it okay for Christians? I know it's a very controversial topic. I've heard a couple of people say it's wrong even though they have no reason to back it up... I've also heard some say as long as it's not medically wrong, couples should pleasure each other in every way ( sorry if graphic  ). It's really a topic most Christians don't like to get into. I'm personally not for or against it, I just don't want to do it if it's a sin. So from a christian and medical point of view. What do you think?*
Seriously seeking
*Edited for brevity and clarity

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Fashionaffairchiq said...

In the midst of her....Hmmm thanks a lot for clarifying..I'm actually not married but the topic came up while in a conversation with a married friend. According to her husband (who she says is a prophet), oral sex is a sin and he said that we shouldn't use the mouth we use in praising God to perform such a 'dirty' act. I didn't say anything about it but you have made a point (with quotations backing it) :). She needs to read
Stay Blessed and I pray for more wisdom and fresh anointing on your life and that of your household everyday. Amen

Anonymous said...

Beautiful.. More grace

Anonymous said...

loool.the first comment is so funny!
love this post

001 said...

Very interesting. As always, I love how you always go back to the word to answer your letters. God bless you.

Anonymous said...

My sister u really dissected it. Def referring ppl to read it.
As for me, if u do for me i do for u....clears throat. God no go vex. Lol
The guy who says we use d same mouth to praise God doesnt he use his mouth on other less offensive parts of his wife's body????. Hian!
Dr. N

1 + The One said...

*sigh* I loveeee you InThe.. I am the no 1 fan of your blog (I don't care who thinks they are lol).. I'm a groupie :-D
I couldn't wait to settle and read your post and it was certainly worth it! Like Tamie said, thank you for always referring to the scripture as the foundation of your posts.

Like the first person who commented said, I am not married but this topic has come up in discussions a number of times. Thank you for throwing more light and answering in such a simple way to be easily understandable.

I love the line - the devil trying to be like the angel of light again... nice one!

God bless you InThe.. Always a pleasure to read your posts! xxxxxx

Naija Girl Abroad said...

There's so much wisdom in this post! *taking notes*

IntheMidstofher said...

Naa: thank you! Actually science proves that our mouths are pretty dirty too lol. It's not by force to do it but don't call God into a lie because you dont want to.

Anony#1: thank you!!!

Anony#2: thank you. That comment was crazy lol.

Tamie:Hey girlfriend! Thanks for the blog love

My Doc: lol!!!@ God no go vex.

1+.....I love you too girlfriend

Naija girl:Welcome to my blog! Thanks for the blog love!!!!


beautiful know as I was opening the post, in was expecting the usual condemnation. Am glad you made it clear. If my man wants to be satisfied and it pleases me too, why not??It just funny that some of us Christians do not know that the devil does no use the sins we are aware of to destroy our life's but the ones we are ignorant about.

God bless you again.

keep up the good work.

@ImpurfectHer said...

Um... I am speechless tho, thank you so much for this, I am single, but it's good to be informed on the matter, so I can have good points in the case of an argument. :D

Anonymous said...

Hi, inthe... Great post... God bless you.
Please don't stop tagging me on twitter, @dnddyon (:you actually stopped. I merely stumbled on this post), God bless you...

IntheMidstofher said...

My Mobile doc: Gbam! absolutely! Thanks for stopping by.

Impurfecther: Lol..put it in your back pocket for later.

Dnddyon: Ha! No vex ooh.I havent "seen" you on twitter in a while. God bless you too missy!

Adaezenwa said...

I just want to hug you for this post! Funny thing is I want to hug you because of the point you raised on "Christian porn". Porn no matter how you dress it up is still porn!

Anonymous said...

I totally agree with you on the whole oral sex issue; I have never really understood why people think it is a sin.

- Abi

Unknown said...

Great piece. AS I was reading with the quotes I expected to see something else. Keep the good work