Friday, November 15, 2019

Dear Inthe…Will I Know Love When I See It?





This week I got a Dear Inthe from a male reader; enjoy!!  

Dear Inthe

If I have a certain persona that fits the bill of a godly person and people can identify with it, how do I separate someone that is interested in the 'idea of me' and someone who really is about me? I mean how do I choose aright? I know what I'm looking for and in looking for depth in God that is true and intentional. Am I being arrogant? Inconsiderate? I'm not looking for someone with the same spiritual depth but I am looking for someone who has a complimentary thirst /hunger.  

I'm Still Searching

When [girls] meet me and know me a bit, they are interested cos the big vices are not there and they see some reflection of God in me. When I don't pick up on their cues, it seems I'm mean but we get over it and we talk and resolve it. Sometimes I ask myself if I'm being too picky or am I being too prideful. I would love God to speak to me about the woman he has for me.* 


Thanks 
Watching and Waiting...

*Edited for privacy and Brevity.



Godly love...Godly marriage... and everything in between






16 comments:

Eniola Prentice said...

your advice is spot on. Trusting God is one of the hardest thing we have to do as believers. and trust me its never easy. if you let go it will happen naturally

In the midst of her said...

Hey Eniola, thanks for commenting. Yes it is the hardest but also the most rewarding decision.

Tamie said...

I always love your responses to mails. Why? You support your replies with scripture. You are tres much. *plenty hugs*

Tamie said...

I always love your responses to mails. Why? You support your replies with scripture. You are tres much. *plenty hugs*

Salt said...

I came here to calm my mind. In a foreign place. NO luggage. No network. No clue what I shall wear tomorrow. Thankfully I have my laptop so I logged on to take the edge off. Hoping my mgm will see my mail...Anyway back to this one of a kind guy.....Please, God is just a whispered prayer away. If you are ready to marry. As in you fully understand what being a husband after God's own heart means, all you need do, I feel, is tell God you are ready and ask him to open your eyes to see and find the good wife he has kept for you.

It's really as simple as that. The things of God are simple and hard like that. God sees your heart. If he sees that truly you are ready....he will not keep any good thing from you......THEN again, you must be sure you are ready for God's answer cos sometimes, many times actually, God's answer for us does not look like the one we had 'pre-arranged' in our heads.......

In the midst of her....I have missed coming here.....

Okeoghene said...

Tamie took the words out of my fingers. I love the way you respond to these your Inthe mails.

Anonymous said...

Hey inthe... how can we send a dear inthe... question or email?

In the midst of her said...

Tamie: Thank you so much and * Hugs* right back girl!

Salt: Wise words from a wise woman. Thanks sis!

Okeoghene: Awwww! Thank you.

Anony: Please send your emails to Inthemidstofher@gmail.com. I answer EVERY one!

1 + The One said...

I just love you too much! (hug, kiss!).. If I were a man mehn, hubster should better watch his back oh hehehe!
I was nodding at different parts of your post and even though it's addressed to a man, it was message for me! (Mehn, I better check my oestrogen levels lol)
I agree with you, Christian girls appreciate Christian guys.. I can testify! xxxx

Anosime said...

Dear Inthe, this is my own mail and err...all I want to ask is how long do you take to search for your photos. Always so on point. LOL
Dear WAW, forget the I's in this case the I's dont have it, its the Him(God) that has it. He is the master arranger, the official burden carrier since man was formed. All you need to do is Trust, walk and obey Him. e no easy o but e sure die. God bless you.
Dear Inthe, as I was typing this I was perceiving efo riro. Abi did/are you make(ing) some?


Abi Tobi said...

hmm.. I don't even know what to say.. it is not so easy, but I pray God helps us to be patient and to listen and not to dismiss everyone

Marriage bythebook said...

Amazing post dear.
Love it.
Dear WaW, may I also add that you focus more on friendship. It is the 'I qant to marry' that puts us under pressure. Can we just be friends without the pressure and then we know if we wanna take friendship into courtship and then marriage.

Feyi said...

Dear inthe,ur reply to Waw's question was spot on, God bless u cos it obvious it was inspired.
Nd to Waw,like earlier said,u re carryn 2much weight u ve no buiz carryn..Just a single heartfelt prayer of help 2 God ll do(Yep! Its dat simple),den put ur full trust in Him...nd wyl waiting for "Her",get busy with God(U can never ve too much of Him) nd rmemba-"seek ye 1st the kingdom of God and everyoda thing wld be added unto You"..Nd try as much as U re capable 2 brg smiles to people's faces,dats one of d most satisfying things in life.....dazzal(LOL)...cheers!!!

Anonymous said...

Dear inthemidst... great reply to WaW, but I'd also add that for himto get answers from God, in my own case was inner peace, it wasn't even love, I just resolved peacefully that He was the one for me, after which further knowing about the person began.

Ralph Bamigboye said...

#Hmm,all said well. You got my line "seek the face of the lord even before you toast her". Don't toast her and then now start prayer.

Another thing, don't be carried away by the perfection between you 2 (if you already have a girlfriend). You love the same food, you are from the same tribe and the rest. All that doesn't matter of God as not chosen her or has not led you to her.

And lastly! Don't be so sink in love that will sex happen. This has almost happened to me like 3 in my life but i thank God i didn't give in to my emotions. "Emotions are good if we channel them rightly"

"Inthemidstofher" You've said it all... #SeekGodBeforeSeekingHer

dong said...

hmm