Friday, February 28, 2020

The Battlefield of Attraction....

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What would you do if you found yourself attracted to someone who wasn't your husband? I've been there and in this episode, I share tips to dealing with the battlefield of attraction.

The Forbidden 

Spoiler: It's a slow fade when you give yourself away. It's a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray. Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid; when you give yourself away. People never crumble in a day...daddies never crumble in a day....Families never crumble in a day
                                       - Casting Crowns (Slow Fade) 

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TheRustGeek said...

Sounds like a really great policy to borrow/ use..

Gloire said...

Thank you, Dear Inthe.
I especially like this:"There will always be forbidden fruit, the question is what do you do with it?"

Unknown said...

Very wise approach you two got going.
I think that only the most secure and unselfish married people can try this.
Some people would be unable to mask their jealousy and anxiety therefore making the other party to close up. Others may use it as a point of insult during a disagreement.
So kudos to you and your hubby for being able to understand that it's possible to find others attractive and not act on it.

Unknown said...

Really wise policy you two got going there.
So many married people will be unable to be that open and transparent, and be secure in the knowledge that they won't be called names by their partner or it be used against them in a disagreement.
Most people fail to realize that it's possible to be attracted to other people, and keeping mute about such attraction is dangerous.

Anonymous said...

I wish I knew this earlier.
made a horrible mistake few weeks ago and I am just getting to build up myself again. Even when we receive forgivness, some scars will not leave.
nothing like been opened to your spouse, it saves you from danger and long stories.

Anonymous said...

What I love the most is the the selflessness that can only be Spirit enabled that you are espousing. I love the vulnerability you both show and grace to the other, knowing that this long life practice/discipline called marriage is more about glorifying God by portraying him in your relationships. And as you both are displaying Christ, it is glorifying to God

As a gbeborun, what did you tell the dude that asked you about his straying

IntheMidstofher said...

RustGeek: Thanks for reading! If a marriage can handle it, why not?

Gloire: Thanks for reading! Yup, that pesky forbidden fruit will always be in or face; may we have the grace to look away!

SoldtoChrist: I absolutely agree! This plan is not for EVERY marriage! It absolutely depends on if your partner can handle it. Thanks for reading.

Anony1: Thanks for reading. There is ALWAYS grace to get back up again. May you find comfort in your time of need. Amen!

Anony2: Lol.... Thanks for reading. I told this bro of mine to "stay in his own lane" and face the one he's going to be with. Less distractions,more the focus. He's pretty smart, I know he'll do the right thing.

Anonymous said...

Inthe there's a typo in the title of this blog

IntheMidstofher said...

Anony 3: God bless your eagle Eyes!!!

Anonymous said...

Dear Inthe,

Thanks for this post. Here's my question, you mentioned you both move into "battle zone"..Can you elaborate on that please? Is the battle zone talking about it only or also praying about it?

Anonymous said...

This is so me.It helped me in my relationship and I can testify it was the best feeling ever.
Free from guilt and trying to cover up tracks.

It's my first time here and I'm glad I did come here, nice one In the, surely I will be very much around here.

Unknown said...

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Love the openness you share with your husband. Sin thrives in secrecy; it takes courage to be vulnerable and open up like you did, it is certainly a principle worth emulating!
Damiloves - masks

Anonymous said...

Thanks for being transparent. It says a lot about your marriage relationship. I wish everyone can be that open with their spouse. Sin grows in secret.

Inthemidstofher said...

Anony 6 (1.45pm): Thank you so much for listening and commenting! This level of communication can be scary but the benefits are undeniable.