Friday, March 27, 2020

My Husband Doesn't Need My Love.




..at least not the way I thought he did.

In this episode, I discuss a revelation that changed my marriage; the fact that my husband does not need my love. Listen in to find out what husbands need more than love.

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15 comments:

Destiny said...

This post is an inspiring one, respect is key to any good marriage, good food and sex is next.lol I think marriages where the women love and respect their men, treat him like the king he is do last longer, then putting God first as well

Destiny said...

How have you been?

Unknown said...

I will start from the end part, I can't wait for the next part o haha. Sincerely, even though I am not married yet, I totally agree with the woman. I have come to discover the times I am not happy with my woman are those few times where I felt I deserved more respect than I got. I grew up with the image of my mother as the perfect kind of wife where humility is always there. Till today, my Mum still knees to greet my Dad and does the same when serving his food. No wonder, my Dad is so fond of my Mum. Even when he travels, he can call 10times in 6hours. lol. Respect for the man does wonders. Thanks for sharing with us again. I am learning a whole lot from you ma. God bless you.

- LDP

31st Chain said...

LOL at conk WOM. Your blog has being a blessing. Thank you.

IntheMidstofher said...

Chibabe: I dey my dear. Respect... Food ...sex!!! You've got that right!!

LDP aka Sir mi sir: hmmm, your mom reminds me of my mil, she does exactly the same. But you do know that what one man sees as respect, is viewed as different by another guy. Actually you've inspired me to write a little more on respect, unfortunately it might delay my continuation on sex...lol.

Och3ny3: thanks girl!!! Your words encourage me. I appreciate them.

Blessing said...

I here that all the time...sex and respect...it seems so simple yet people are suffering in unhappy marriages...I don't get it

IntheMidstofher said...

Blessing: Girl, sex and respect doesn't make a good marriage....It makes a good marriage work! I am not saying just throw some sex and respect into a bowl of chaos and it will make things all rosy...NOOOOO but if you have a good God ordained marriage, sex and respect will make your man's head spin!

Jennifer A. said...

In our Young Marrieds group we watched Andy Stanley talk about the same concept: women need tenderness, men need respect (of course both parties need all of the above, but the priorities for the wife are different from those for the husband). Throw in sex and deal the deal. Ha ha ha.

Myne said...

When I read these sorts of posts, I often wonder. Is it the assumption that women generally don't respect people so they need to be TOLD to LEARN respect especially to their hubbies?

I think it makes more sense to call it the name the bible does. Submission. :)

IntheMidstofher said...

Hey myne: I can't speak for other writers but my main point of this post is that men don't need "love" in the typical way we women do. Most men don't need constant affirmations about the partners love as much as they need the constant affirmation of respect. If you make a man choose between numerous L-bombs (love) from his woman and a silent but constant show of respect in private n public; hands down, he'll choose respect! Thanks for reading.

IntheMidstofher said...

MYne: PS... Girl, Theres a huge difference btw submission n respect! LOL. You can submit grudgingly with discontentment towards ur hubby but it's super hard to respect someone you're discontent with.

Anonymous said...

Girl, I bought up this topic with my husband on what men want in society. His response was that many men just want peace from their women. If a woman is not dramatic and well behaved meaning she treats others right. All is well. Once a woman starts causing problems, then you know things start changing hence.

Myne said...

I really don't agree with most generalizations, each man is different and what each wants is different. Psychologists like Dr. Chapman have figured out 5 love languages, I'm sure there are even more. Applying what works for Pastor's wife to your relationship without testing may lead to disaster.

If a woman is generally disrespectful then she needs to work on herself, if she is disrespectful just to her spouse, she or they possibly need marital counselling.

Derin said...

Your blog was more fun when you weren't blogging for an audience :(

H said...

Right on. I've heard this too many times not to believe that it is actually true.